What Not To Say To Someone Who Lost Their Baby

May 14, 2021 2 min read

It can be difficult to navigate ways to be there for individuals who have endured trials like losing their child; but it's just as important to know what not to say. Here are a few examples that will hopefully expand your thinking around this topic.


Nothing

Don't ignore the fact that it happened. This will make them feel like their feelings aren't valid. Like you don't care. It happened to them, so ask them how they're feeling today. If they want to share, they will.

"At Least..."

This can be extremely unhelpful and even problematic at times. Stay away from sentences that start with "at least".

"Be grateful for the time you had together."

They are grateful for the time they had together, but that doesn't take away from the immense pain they are likely feeling right now. Saying this takes away from the tragedy that they are going through.

"Grief takes time"

By saying this, you're implying that their sadness will be over once time passes.Grief over the loss of a child doesn't go away. It stays with someone for the rest of their life.

"Stay strong for..."

If there has ever been a time for them to break down, it's now. They don't have to be strong right now, so telling them to be strong will not help.

Advice

Just be a listening ear for this person in your life. They don't need advice, they just need you to listen.

Ways to Support Someone Who Lost Their Baby

  • How can I support you?
  • You are not alone.
  • I am listening.
  • I am here for you when you want to talk.
  • It's okay to feel what you feel.
  • I see you.
  • I love you.

The fact that you are reading this shows how much you care. Do your best, but remember everyone is so unique and feels love differently. Be there for them in the way that they need you to be.


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Madison Bischoff

Madison is part of the marketing team here at Bella Ella. She spends most of her free time watching Mama Mia on repeat and spending time with her husband and puppy.

Madison Bischoff

Madison is part of the marketing team here at Bella Ella. She spends most of her free time watching Mama Mia on repeat and spending time with her husband and puppy.

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