“When we avoid difficult conversations, we trade short-term discomfort for long-term dysfunction.”
― Peter Bromberg
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May 13, 2022 3 min read
“When we avoid difficult conversations, we trade short-term discomfort for long-term dysfunction.”
― Peter Bromberg
The ultimate goal is to have our kids completely trust us with topics that they want to know about.
In these conversations, we have a clean slate to help them have a healthy relationship with the world around them.
Sometimes we can get caught up in the answeringof the question and we forget to ask questions.
There are three big mistakes we make as parents in difficult conversations:
According to scholastic.com, around the age of 7, children start forming their own opinions and reasoning for the world.
But, the views that feed this reasoning start so much younger.
Have you ever had your kid ask "Why?" about literally everything? (what an age that is lol)
They are trying to find their little places in this big world and we help them do that, but not by answering their questions.
I know, that's a hard pill to swallow.
However, we could be robbing them of their opportunity to become critical thinkers if we just give them the answer every time.
Instead of answering every question my kids have, Iask themthe questions.
This completely changes the way they think.
Instead of "let's ask mom" your child thinks, "what's the answer?"
This is the start of a safe place of learning for you both.
The reality is: if I was right about everything, I would win the lottery as much as I want, but I'm not. So how can I be sure if I am right or wrong when answering my kids' questions?
I do my best to let my kids learn by themselves while I guide them.
I do this by asking questions.
Have you ever spoken to someone and they are itching for you to finish just so they can give their two cents?
Something tells me you hate this as much as I do. Why? Because we all want to feel heard.
Kids need their parents to listen to them.
Listening is more than just waiting until they're done talking to speak.
(Though sometimes it's hard to at least do that.)
What is listening?
Listening is actively reacting to what they say.
Listening is asking questions.
Listening is following up on those questions.
Listening is waiting for the right time to speak.
Listening is not arguing or proving them wrong.
This might seem like old news for you.
However, sometimes it's easy to forget these are little people we are dealing with.
They will have friends and family of their own one day, and listening can be their best skill if you show them how.
We want our kids to stand out from the crowd. People today just want to talk about their opinions. No one wants to listen.
You can help your kids stand out from everyone by teaching them how to listen and what it's like to be listened to.
That will be one their greatest lessons from you.
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